Dating is always difficult. First, you have to find someone you think is good for you, then you have to pretend to be someone else, and finally you have to make it work. Oh, and you might have to do it all while juggling a family and a demanding job. It is no wonder relationship change like the weather when you are single. Still, even with this perspective it doesn’t hurt any less. Even if the relationship wasn’t going anywhere, it is difficult to breakup. If you tired of sitting in your PJs eating ice-cream once every six months, here are some tips to help you survive.
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See A Psychiatrist
The idea of a psychiatrist isn’t a very nice one because there is stigma to seeing a shrink. And, when you have just ended a relationship, it is the last thing you want to deal with right now. However, if you can look past what other people might think, you could find a lot of solace. Just think about all the times you recovered from a breakup. Did it involve a good cry and a shoulder on which to lean? It is often the case, and therapists are willing to be that shoulder as long as you meet their rate. If not, find a friend with some spare time on their hands.
Find A Distraction
Most breakups are history when the person who is hit hardest finds a way to forget about the ordeal. It sounds almost impossible now, but it is possible with the right choices. All it takes is a bit of willpower and the ability to understand you need to stop moping. Sorry to sound harsh, but it’s true. The best distractions are often the clichés like work or the gym as you can throw yourself into them wholeheartedly. Still, you don’t have to be a cliché if you don’t want because you can go with anything that is healthy and takes up a bit of time. You might learn a language, for example, and go travelling. The world is your oyster.
Gain Perspective
Context is everything when it comes to surviving a breakup. The more context you can apply, the better you will start to feel. It is all about looking on the bright side of life (to be whistled in a Monty Python theme) instead of the negative side. If you were never married, you might focus on how you never had to get a divorce. After all, the idea of hiring a divorce lawyer fills a lot of couples with fear for what lays ahead. Or, if you are still young, you might focus on how there is still plenty more fish in the sea and enjoy being single.
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Surround Yourself With Friends
At a time like this, there is no one better than a friend. They know exactly what to say and how to say it to get you back up and on your feet. If you have more than one, you won’t be down for very long. It isn’t easy to do all of the above when you think you are alone. Your support group, therefore, will push you into doing everything you need to feel better.
Basically, they are your survival technique.
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