Ah, the joys of single motherhood. Some days you feel like a superhero, and other days you wonder how you’ve survived on coffee and sheer willpower. I get it—we’re juggling more hats than a circus performer while trying to raise decent human beings who (hopefully) don’t grow up to need too much therapy. No pressure, right?
But here’s the good news: you can totally build a strong, healthy relationship with your kids without losing your sanity. I know, sometimes it feels like parenting is just one long exercise in figuring out who hid the TV remote this time, but beneath the chaos is the magic. And trust me, you don’t need to have it all together to make it work—half the time, none of us do!
Let’s dive into a few tried-and-tested tips for strengthening that bond with your little ones (while keeping the drama to a minimum).
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1. Laugh with Them (Not at Them… Most of the Time)
Laughter is the ultimate glue in any relationship, especially with your kids. The ability to laugh together can lighten any mood, whether it’s giggling over a silly joke or (more often than not) laughing about how everyone forgot it was school picture day and your kid’s hair looks like they’ve been caught in a wind tunnel. Oops.
Kids love when you’re able to drop the serious parenting face and join them in a bit of fun. It helps remind them—and you—that life isn’t always about rules and routines. Sometimes, it’s about who can make the funniest fart sound with their armpit. (Spoiler: your kid will always win.)
2. Show Them You’re Human
News flash: mums are actual humans, not robots with an endless supply of patience. Shocking, I know. But kids need to see this side of you. Let them witness your vulnerability every once in a while. Maybe you’re frustrated because you stepped on a LEGO barefoot (a new level of pain) or you’re just exhausted from a long day—being real shows them it’s okay to feel emotions.
It’s easy to put on the “I’ve got everything under control” mask, but there’s real power in showing your kids that life doesn’t always go smoothly. They’ll learn that it’s okay to mess up, feel sad, or even have an off day—and that’s a lesson they’ll carry forever.
3. Create Little Traditions
You don’t need a full-fledged “family tradition committee” to make special moments. Start small and make it fun! Movie night every Friday (even if it means watching the same animated flick on repeat—again), pizza Sundays, or something as simple as a bedtime story every night. These little traditions become the memories your kids will cherish.
It’s those regular, comforting routines that tell your child, “Hey, we might be flying by the seat of our pants most days, but this—this is ours.”
4. Be Their Safe Space (No Judgment Allowed)
One of the biggest gifts you can give your kids is the space to express themselves without judgment. This means listening to them, even when they’re telling you about the world’s longest Minecraft adventure or some school drama that sounds like a soap opera.
The more you listen without immediately jumping into Mum Mode (“Oh, I know how to fix this!”), the more they’ll feel comfortable opening up to you. Kids need to know they can come to you with anything, from the little stuff to the big stuff. Even if the big stuff right now is, “Mum, I broke the TV remote again.”
5. Apologize When You Mess Up
Here’s the thing: no one expects you to be perfect. And if they do, well, they’re probably not living in the real world. Kids benefit from seeing their parents own up to mistakes. If you snap (we all do!), lose your cool, or drop the ball on something, apologizing teaches your child the importance of accountability.
It also shows them that even mums are works in progress—and that’s okay. Plus, saying sorry smooths things over, turning what could be a major emotional storm into a brief rain shower. Parenting win!
6. Let Them Be Who They Are (Even When It’s Really Weird)
Kids go through phases—some sweet, some downright bizarre. One day, they’re obsessed with dinosaurs, and the next, they’re convinced they’re going to be a YouTube star. While it’s tempting to roll your eyes at their latest passion (or collection of rocks from the garden), encouraging their quirks helps build their confidence.
Giving them space to be their true, sometimes eccentric selves will make them feel accepted and valued. Plus, it’s entertaining—you never know what strange hobby they’ll come up with next!
7. Set Boundaries (You’re Still the Boss, After All)
Building a healthy relationship with your kids doesn’t mean becoming their bestie. Sure, you want to be close, but they also need to know there are rules and boundaries. Setting clear, consistent limits shows them you care enough to keep them safe—even if they don’t exactly see it that way when you’re confiscating their screen time for the evening.
It’s a balance: love and discipline. They might grumble about it now, but one day they’ll understand and (maybe) thank you. Maybe.
Conclusion: You’re Doing Amazing, Mum!
Look, no one said parenting was easy—especially when you’re flying solo. But the fact that you’re reading this means you’re already a rock star mum who cares deeply about her relationship with her kids. And that’s what matters most.
So, take a deep breath, grab a cup of tea (or something stronger), and remember: your kids love you, even on the days when everything feels like it’s going haywire. Keep laughing, keep showing up, and keep embracing the beautiful chaos of single motherhood. You’ve got this!
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to go find the TV remote… again.
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