Donna is dishing out some useful tips on dating as a single parent in her post this week. I completely agree with her tips and wish I had them when I was first on the dating scene as a single parent. You can read her post Parental Guidance over at eHarmony.
I was going to write my tips for dating as a single mum, instead I here is an example of ‘what not to do’ with one of my very early dating experiences.
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My parents had very kindly offered to take my two children to a Christmas party they were invited to. This would mean they would be gone for a couple of hours in the evening. I hadn’t told my parents I was trying online dating so used the free hours for a date. This would mean rushing around getting ready after they had left and making a dash home Cinderella style before they returned. I figured I could do it.
The date was arranged and my date requested I wore something posh. I was pretty sure he hadn’t been tipped off that posh was not natural days look for me so asked why I had to wear posh. He explained he would be taking me somewhere posh. We agreed to meet in a car park and then I would follow him. Before you raise your eyebrows the car park was picked by me as I knew it would be busy and I was not about to give out my address to a stranger.
My parents were delayed in picking the children up which meant I was rather rushed and harassed in getting ready. Finally, I skipped out the door to my car in a rather fetching dress and high heels. I didn’t get very far as I then realized sitting on the kitchen worktop were my car and house keys. I have since learned not to keep these keys together and to also not have Yale locks that can lock behind you.
So I am standing there fit for The Ritz with not a car in sight in the little village I lived in. Not a sole to help me out. The only thing I could do was to climb in the small top window of the downstairs bathroom. Just as I am legs akimbo airing next week washing in the most undignified fashion, a car pulls up after spotting me. Not any old car, oh no. It was, in fact, a police car. I now had to un-climb my accent and point out to the rather two bemused police men that it was my house and if I was actually a burglar would I have not chosen a better outfit to climb through windows in. The two police men finally convinced I was too mad to be a burglar offered to help me. The window was too small for them I so I re-climbed through the window whilst they held my shoes and averted their eyes. Many minutes later a rather now dishevelled me arrived at the car park rather late. I didn’t dare try to explain to my date the events so far and just muttered something about car trouble.
For this sad tale of my date to have a happy ending I wish I could now boast the most gorgeous and expensive posh place he took me to. Sadly I can’t. His and my idea of posh couldn’t have been further apart. It was in fact a pub, one that I had been too many times and not posh by any stretch of the imagination.
My final ‘what not to do’ was my exit. I rather pathetically made my excuses to use the ladies room and ran.
I have since written a more in-depth post about Dating for Single Parents if you would like to read more.
notSupermum says
OMG! Hilarious. And I love your way of escaping too. Did he ever get back in touch? My oddest date was when I dabbled in online dating and arranged to meet a man who, when we finally met, turned out to be an ex-boss. For some reason we hadn’t recognised each other from our photos (a long time has passed since we had worked together) but we went onto have a great date, lots of laughter, and kept in touch for a long time afterwards – although there was no romance.
Confessions of a single mum says
Funnily enough no I never heard from him again lol Cant imagine why but I do cringe at my behaviour.
Nickie says
I have never experienced the “joys” on online dating or otherwise – I’d be crap at it. Really crap!! I’d give out all the information you’re not supposed to, forget to ring my “safe person” and probably end up with Mr Very Wrong.
I’m still laughing at your climb through the window 😀
Gappy says
Fellow single mum and online dater here. Your story didn’t half make me laugh. Not sure I can top that, although I did have one bloke ask me if I knew how much the Premier Inn over the road cost once. I was half way through my first drink!! I also made my excuses and left. Alone.
Heather says
Funnily enough all the stories I’ve heard about online dating/window escapades are the other way around. I have a girlfriend who literally climbed out of a toilet window in Bristol to escape from lying a dipstick with false hair/teeth and unnatural bodily odours.